Soul Notes From a Therapist

Discover what Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) really is, why it develops, and how trauma-informed therapy can help you heal. Learn how EMDR, IFS, and CBT support emotional regulation, self-understanding, and lasting change. Online BPD treatment and trauma therapy available across California.

Navigating therapy costs can be confusing, especially if your therapist is out of network. This guide explains exactly how to use a therapy superbill in California to get reimbursed for sessions—step by step. Learn what a superbill is, how to verify your insurance benefits, and how Thrizer can handle the process for you so you can focus on healing, not paperwork.

IFS Therapy for Complex Trauma helps you heal the inner parts that protect and carry pain. Discover how Internal Family Systems (IFS) supports trauma recovery through compassion and Self-leadership, plus three simple at-home IFS exercises to start connecting with your inner world.

A compassionate look at healing vaginismus through EMDR therapy. Learn how releasing fear and trauma helps restore body trust, safety, and intimacy.

Do you keep attracting the wrong men? 🚩 Many women repeat toxic patterns without realizing it’s rooted in trauma, unmet needs, or conditioning that made chaos feel familiar. In this blog, discover the obvious and subtle red flags in dating, why you may feel drawn to dysfunction, and how therapy can help you heal patterns, reclaim your worth, and create space for real, healthy love.

Many people confuse Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) because both may experience sensory overwhelm, social fatigue, and a need for quiet. Yet HSP is a temperament trait, marked by deep emotional processing and empathy, while ASD is a neurodevelopmental condition that shapes communication, social cues, and routines. Knowing the difference allows for validation, accurate support, and growth.

When narcissism meets substance abuse, the danger multiplies. Drugs and alcohol lower inhibitions, fueling manipulation, rage, and volatility. Overt narcissists may become louder and aggressive, while covert ones lean into self-pity and guilt-tripping. Stimulants heighten paranoia and grandiosity, depressants deepen dependency, and alcohol escalates conflict. Survivors often feel trapped in chaos, but healing is possible with boundaries, education, and trauma-informed therapy

Discover the key differences between covert and overt narcissists, how they switch strategies, and what happens when Dark Triad traits are involved. Learn how these patterns affect relationships and how survivors can heal through trauma-informed therapy.

Narcissistic abuse leaves deep, lasting scars that can impact identity, relationships, and even physical health. Survivors often carry invisible wounds like self-doubt, anxiety, and complex trauma. But healing is possible. Through awareness, therapy, boundaries, and nervous system regulation, survivors can reclaim their identity and move from surviving to thriving.

Somatic healing recognizes that trauma isn’t just in the mind, it’s stored in the body. Through body awareness, breathwork, movement, and EMDR, clients can release stress and find relief. Learn how reconnecting with your body can help calm the nervous system, ease anxiety, and restore balance.

What’s the difference between PTSD and Complex Trauma? PTSD often follows a single traumatic event, while Complex Trauma develops from repeated experiences such as childhood neglect, abuse, or chronic invalidation. This blog explores the key differences, why Complex Trauma requires a more relational and holistic approach, and how healing is possible through compassion, EMDR, parts work, and nervous system regulation.

Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) is one of the most misunderstood mental health conditions, often stigmatized and misrepresented in media. Rooted in trauma, DID is not about “multiple personalities” but about survival and resilience. This blog explores the history, symptoms, myths, and compassionate ways to support healing, reminding us that people with DID deserve understanding, safety, and hope.

EMDR therapy is a proven method for healing trauma, PTSD, and dissociation when talk therapy falls short. In this blog, I share my journey with EMDR, why experience and creativity matter in guiding clients through complex trauma, and how this therapy helps reprocess triggers, intrusive thoughts, and painful memories for lasting relief.

Jennifer Starlight, LMFT, shares her personal healing journey from trauma to transformation. Learn why she became a therapist and how she helps others heal.