How is your past trauma affecting your life? Trauma is difficult to overcome because no matter how much you KNOW, you should not get angry at certain things, or that certain things are not really that scary, you can’t help but FEEL otherwise. These anger or anxiety triggers tend to affect us negatively in our relationships with our significant others, with our children, with our parents, with co-workers and limits us from succeeding in the workplace or to take the necessary steps to pursue our dreams.
If you can identify with any of the following statements, it is possible that past trauma is affecting your life now:
- Friends or loved ones tend to stay away from you because you tend to “overreact” to a lot of things or everything or are a “party pooper”
- You have fears, known or unknown, that prevent you from asking for a raise, seeking a promotion, going back to school, etc.
- Feelings of low self-worth, feeling like a burden, feeling like you’re a bad person, you’re a people pleaser, you have an inability to say “no” to people
- Feeling angry at the world and having an inability to control the anger.
- Anger has led to loss of relationships, loss of jobs or have gotten you in trouble with the law.
- Constant sadness or depression, loss of motivation, loss of appetite, unable to experience positive emotions, not enjoying activities you used to enjoy.
But what is trauma? Trauma can be big or small and every individual experiences trauma differently. Trauma is any event that taught you something negative about yourself and the world around you.
The response to trauma by each individual varies based on many factors: severity of trauma, how trauma was perceived, how old the individual was when the trauma occurred, how the individual viewed him/herself at the time the trauma occurred, how many traumatic incidents the individual has experienced, who (if anyone) perpetrated the traumatic event? Was it someone you trusted and who was supposed to care for you and love you? Or a total stranger?
If you are ready to stop the effects of trauma from affecting your life in negative ways and would like someone to help you learn how your specific trauma has affected you and how to relieve the symptoms of the trauma so you can move on with your life, then you’ve come to the right place.
As a trauma survivor myself, I can identify with the difficulties that arise from experiencing trauma and not knowing how or why we feel and act the way we do and feeling hopeless in our ability to ever make any positive changes.